SOtS Forum was started to provide a service that had been greatly lacking: a supportive network of peers for young significant others of transsexuals. There are lots of good support resources out there for transsexuals themselves, but hardly anything for their partners and spouses. Significant others ("SOs") go through a special kind of grieving process that should not be ignored; we need support just as much as our partners do.

Of the few resources that do exist, they are either: 1) made up mainly of people who are older -- they have been married (or together) for many more years, have had children who are now grown, and are at a stage in their relationship that is very different from where we stand; or 2) geared toward people whose spouses have come out to them as homosexual. While many of the same emotions are present as with those dealing with a gay or lesbian spouse, there are also many issues that are unique to our situation with transgendered partners.

No matter what stage of the coping process you are in; whether the TG person in your life is your current or former significant other; whether you will be staying with your SO or not; whatever your circumstances, you are welcome. We are not here to judge or to say who is right or wrong, simply to provide a supportive environment for people to decide what is best for them.

This web site is a constant work in progress, with the ultimate goal of serving as a central location for information and support for significant others of transpeople. Any thoughts and ideas are welcomed whole-heartedly; with your input, this site can continue to grow and become better. And of course, please visit the message board to share your experiences and feelings.

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